To Love and Be Loved
To me, Valentine’s Day is of course, too much about the commercialism and not enough about the individuals we love. However, what I LOVE about Valentine’s is that it is ABOUT love. Who says it has to just be about your partner, hubby, wife or crush?! I use it as a great excuse to remind lots of people who I love just that – “I still love you… heaps and I think about you often”.
Anyway, in honour of Valentine’s Day I thought it might be nice to think about love through the ages – so here is Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s famous sonnet (no. 37).
I also wanted to tell you that Mr OC work at our relationship all the time, and I’m beginning to consider what I need to work on more seriously now we’re engaged – in a positive way, because I respect that marriage success doesn’t just come from the magic you have with that person it comes from tinkering with it, honing it, nourishing it – like a plant or a vintage car! It’s the kind of work that isn’t work – it’s just a way to make our life constantly better. Like exercise! I feel another blog coming on for that one…
In the meantime Happy St Valentine’s – i.e. LOVE day. Tell someone, anyone you love them. But only if you do of course!!
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints!—I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!—and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.